Do ‘high hopes’ have a detrimental effect on success and satisfaction?
i have a question for you
so with all the exploration of inspiration….motivation etc. what i call chasing after glory, and high dreams and high hopes
do you find that has been detrimental in anyway
to your mental health, in terms of just being able to not chase after anything, but rather live simplistic in enjoyment.
yes read my recent article on vision boards
and see the link to another site: ‘Throw away your vision board’
really good read
and i believe very relevant to your question
i read both articles
and i actually tend to agree deeply with neil farber
both are neccessary
at different points
i think middle ground is key
that might be because you haven’t done the other side, you’ve spent too long on the right brain stuff and not enough on the left brain stuff
so now you’re repelled by the right brain stuff
being able to clarify and recognize your deepest desires,
but also making a vision board of how to achieve it
yes but he’s not saying middle ground
or it all seems too grandiose
right, so you agree with me, not him
[Note: I’m not just trying to ‘be right’ here. I’m trying to keep my friends attention on the clear point I think needs to be understood]
his article really resonated with me
because its something that i have been going through
for a long time, i was searching for glory
searching for grandioseness
life lead me back to reality
and now in reality, i am observing.
theres much i dont understand about where my path has lead me.
its confusing, and also in some ways detrimental.
now in living naturally just everyday life
i am trying to see that life is beautiful without having to go after anything and push so damn hard.
just appreciate…like glory detox, but the other aspect of me, has a hard time letting go, of bigger dreams, bigger impact
wanting it all badly. so…thus here i am.
i know hun, i spent a few months with you and I know exactly where you was at that time
its hard, its kind of depressing in some ways. embracing the reality and not looking for anything.
i think i spend my entire life searching, and in a way its like ive detoxed from searching for anything.
but its a necessary state i think that i cant quite understand.
its not about middle ground, as that’s nowhere, its about being flexible enough to move from one position to another to get value from different approaches at different times
yes embracing reality without anything grandiose is also empty
and perhaps not being too attached to mind frames? allowing oneself to change
are you reading what i’m saying?
yes i am reading
im a fast reader, and understander.
and am embracing what you’re saying.
as i respect your words.
so then you know my advice?
clarify more: its about being flexible enough to move from one position to another to get value from different approaches at different times
well that’s what the flower of being is all about, those same 7 dimensions that i described to you in the pool hall
but the gist is this:
spend some time dream boarding, stick the board on the wall
enjoy in all its glory
make solid practical plans with small manageable projects that you measure your performance on
and thus get to work
then once in a while, you determine, reflect back on the grandiose dream
then get back to work
and find your own rhythm of balance, progress, re-energisation, renewal, and actual measured specific success
that’s not a middle ground
it’s going back and forth from different positions, not getting too caught up on one thing
being flexible and creating your own real path
this is gold.
i need reenergization
im going after the societal influence soon, and then after that the monster corps.
i think im going to do an education and sales specific vision board
you bring me life
do the vision board but it’s not a complete process
a complete process is having a vision then planning it’s achievement then doing it until it’s complete
give yourself permission to spend time on planning the finer details of how to literally physically achieve goals, both big and small
you’ll learn a lot from that
i think i need to work on the smaller deets.
because the grandioseness has sort of…made me feel……small
more difficult to achieve…