The Mind-Hacks of Priority and Instant Action

I need to get in the habit of writing these mind-hacks more regularly.

What’s been missing?

Discipline? There’s a mind-hack for that…

Procrastination? I have a mind-hack for that too…

No, it’s something different.

It’s priority.

And the 6 types of life-hack that I now cover are becoming a bigger priority to me for 2014.

And besides the Flower of Being courses that I have developed and sell through Survival2020, I have to recognize the many other contributions to my own mental development over the years.

That’s why I’m gradually populating the Survival2020 store with references to other websites products, such as the Silva Life System, or Brian Tracy’s excellent personal growth programs such as the Psychology of Achievement, and so on.

Today’s mind-hack:

Just as we must retrain the body regularly with exercise, so we must retrain the mind with new tools, reviewing old tools, constantly sharpening the axe… maintaining vigilance on our capacity for success.

Never letting our mind go soft due to neglect.

Take stock of your current situation… and take urgent instant action on something that’s achievable and fulfilling, that supports your mental development right now… giving you natural motivation to take the next step, and the next.

I wish you the very best possible start to a new year of survival and prosperity.

Gavriel

7 elements of lifestyle bliss

How did 2014 2013 turn out for you in the end?

Much like 2013 2012?

Have you… as yet… made any internal resolution to step up your game in 2015?

  • To improve your lifestyle?
  • To contribute more to your personal cause?
  • To prepare for change?

FlowerOfBeing.com is about maximizing your productive creativity with complete harmony of self and surroundings.

Big task?

Well, there are 7 elements of lifestyle bliss to account for…

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ONE: Your Choices

A friend in Toronto has a little tattoo along her index finger that reads ‘Choose’.

Sometimes we have to just ‘shut up and choose’ she says, lifting her finger to her mouth in a ‘sshhhhh’ gesture.

What do you need to choose for 2014?
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TWO: Your World in Transition

You may not see it on the surface, but deep changes are sweeping across Earth like never before…

  • The fall of Imperial America…
  • The rise of alternative currencies like BitCoin…
  • The Fukushima radiation global catastrophe still unfolding…
  • The move to a new global currency backed by gold and silver…
  • Earth expansion theory that may explain new natural disasters…
  • Geo-political shakeup across the globe…

You either prepare for change, embrace change, or spearhead change for yourself. Otherwise, change will most certainly come looking for you.
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THREE: Lifestyle Order

How is it that people create a list of so-called New Year Resolutions but miss the fundamental requirements for change?

All 7 elements of lifestyle bliss touched on here are required, but surely an obvious element to success is to get better organized?

Without getting organized, nothing happens at all.

And many people make a choice for change. They even set sale on their new direction.

But the wind is soon sucked from their sails, simply because they fail to order their life in any way that supports their choice and direction.

Don’t be suckered into failure by failing to organize your lifestyle around what you want to achieve. I know you know it already. But to know and not to do, is not to know.

Bottom line: Get Organized.
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FOUR: Prioritize Your Lifestyle Elements

The mass consumerism you’ve enjoyed until now is over. For the next few years (at minimum) it’s time to batten down the hatches.

There’s a financial storm coming the likes of which makes the 2008 ‘credit crunch’ look like a mere gust of wind.

Time to clarify your real priorities…

  • What’s important to you given the current global climate and your current personal success level?
  • Do you have family to protect? A save haven of self-sufficiency to build and/or reach?
  • Currency to save in bitcoin and precious metals? 50/50 split?

Get out of the old world systems right now before they implode. Get into the new world systems wherever you can find them. Keep looking.

Account for the 5 broad lifestyle elements reflected in FlowerOfBeing.com: Mind, Being, and Spirit.

Nurture your inner spirit. Take care of your external environment. Know your priorities.
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FIVE: Stand Guard at the Gateways to Your Mind

The time for battling with personal laziness, a lack of self-responsibility and accepting external authority is at a cross-roads.

Rekindle the light of your inner guidance system.

  • Stand guard at the gateways to your mind. Switch off the deadening sounds of MTV and the lies of mainstream media. Remind yourself this world is not yet healthy, honest or free. But the new world is within our reach, collectively. Yet it must be entered by each one of us individually.
  • Follow your bliss. Stay mindful of long-term bliss that comes from commitment to your inner purpose. Not what society, family, god or government would impose on you. The bliss that is of your true self.

Take the necessary time out to recharge your batteries, to do exciting things. The goal is to feel good forever. In peace, love, harmony and clarity.
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SIX: Synergize with Significant Others

No man is an island.

Our purpose and passion must be our own. But our means to get there is by sharing, caring and creating together.

  • Who do you need to reach out to now?
  • Who can help you and who can you help?
  • Which communities, circles of influence, activist projects are worthy of your time and attention?
  • Who do you need to forgive? Who is it best to forget?

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SEVEN: Give Your Gift

Ultimately, any years’ success rests on the extent you enjoy giving your gift.

Connect all of these 7 elements together and your bliss comes from effectively and efficiently knowing and achieving your purpose in whatever form it takes for you personally, to create new values and contribute to significant others, in a way that fills you with bliss.
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Get it done

Make whatever ‘difficult’ choices you need to make.

Be well. Live long and prosper.

Build a fortress of protection around yourself and loved ones.

Times are a changin’

Keep your relationships aflame with erotic intelligence [video]

Esther Perel: The secret to desire in a long-term relationship

In long-term relationships, we often expect our beloved to be both best friend and erotic partner.

But as Esther Perel argues, good and committed sex draws on two conflicting needs: our need for security and our need for surprise.

So how do you sustain desire?

With wit and eloquence, Perel lets us in on the mystery of erotic intelligence.

Outtakes:

The crisis of desire is often the crisis of imagination

If love was a verb it would be ‘to have’. If desire was a verb it would be ‘to want’.

2 principles of finding desire within relationship:

  1. Create experiences of absence and longing
  2. Find ways to experience each partners radiance and confidence from living in their element (to heighten sense of mystery, newness, discovery)

Wheels of Emotion (and there correspondences)

Plutchik-wheel

The model above helps us explore the nuances of corresponding emotion, as described by Robert Plutchik.

It reveals eight primary emotions arranged as opposing pairs along with degrees of intensity:

  • Joy vs Sadness
  • Trust vs Disgust
  • Fear vs Anger
  • Surprise vs Anticipation

And here’s a poster presenting Plutchik’s psychoevolutionary theory of basic emotions (courtesy of Markus Drews of the University of Applied Sciences, Germany).

Refs:

 

The Happiness Advantage: Link between positivity and success [video]

 

YouTube description:

Shawn Achor is the winner of over a dozen distinguished teaching awards at Harvard University, where he delivered lectures on positive psychology in the most popular class at Harvard.

Alessia notes:

Concerning the state of mind (positivity) that shifts someone from a victim mentality to a problem solver

21 Days to re-wire your brain with more positivity

  • 3 gratitudes
  • Journaling
  • Exercise
  • Meditation
  • Random acts of kindness

Dreaming without Action (live chat on dream boards, high hopes and getting real)

Do ‘high hopes’ have a detrimental effect on success and satisfaction?

Friend:

i have a question for you

so with all the exploration of inspiration….motivation etc.  what i call chasing after glory, and high dreams and high hopes

do you find that has been detrimental in anyway

to your mental health, in terms of just being able to not chase after anything, but rather live simplistic in enjoyment.

?

Gav:

yes read my recent article on vision boards

http://www.gavrielshaw.com/mind/transformation/update-vision-board-emotional-momentum/

and see the link to another site: ‘Throw away your vision board’

really good read

and i believe very relevant to your question

Friend:

hmmm

i read both articles

and i actually tend to agree deeply with neil farber

i think

both are neccessary

at different points

i think middle ground is key

Gav:

that might be because you haven’t done the other side, you’ve spent too long on the right brain stuff and not enough on the left brain stuff

so now you’re repelled by the right brain stuff

Friend:

being able to clarify and recognize your deepest desires,

Gav:

?

Friend:

but also making a vision board of how to achieve it

Gav:

yes but he’s not saying middle ground

Friend:

the steps

or it all seems too grandiose

Gav:

right, so you agree with me, not him

[Note: I’m not just trying to ‘be right’ here. I’m trying to keep my friends attention on the clear point I think needs to be understood]

Friend:

his article really resonated with me

because its something that i have been going through

for a long time, i was searching for glory

searching for grandioseness

life lead me back to reality

and now in reality, i am observing.

theres much i dont understand about where my path has lead me.

its confusing, and also in some ways detrimental.

now in living naturally just everyday life

i am trying to see that life is beautiful without having to go after anything and push so damn hard.

just appreciate…like glory detox, but the other aspect of me, has a hard time letting go, of bigger dreams, bigger impact

wanting it all badly.  so…thus here i am.

Gav:

i know hun, i spent a few months with you and I know exactly where you was at that time

Friend:

its hard, its kind of depressing in some ways. embracing the reality and not looking for anything.

i think i spend my entire life searching, and in a way its like ive detoxed from searching for anything.

but its a necessary state i think that i cant quite understand.

Gav:

its not about middle ground, as that’s nowhere, its about being flexible enough to move from one position to another to get value from different approaches at different times

yes embracing reality without anything grandiose is also empty

hence depressing

Friend:

and perhaps not being too attached to mind frames?  allowing oneself to change

Gav:

are you reading what i’m saying?

Friend:

yes i am reading

im a fast reader, and understander.

and am embracing what you’re saying.

as i respect your words.

Gav:

so then you know my advice?

Friend:

clarify more: its about being flexible enough to move from one position to another to get value from different approaches at different times

Gav:

ok…

well that’s what the flower of being is all about, those same 7 dimensions that i described to you in the pool hall

but the gist is this:

spend some time dream boarding, stick the board on the wall

enjoy in all its glory

then

make solid practical plans with small manageable projects that you measure your performance on

and thus get to work

then once in a while, you determine, reflect back on the grandiose dream

then get back to work

and find your own rhythm of balance, progress, re-energisation, renewal, and actual measured specific success

that’s not a middle ground

it’s going back and forth from different positions, not getting too caught up on one thing

being flexible and creating your own real path

Friend:

this is gold.

thank you

Gav:

you’re welcome

Friend:

i need reenergization

im going after the societal influence soon, and then after that the monster corps.

i think im going to do an education and sales specific vision board

you bring me life

yay !!!

Gav:

do the vision board but it’s not a complete process

a complete process is having a vision then planning it’s achievement then doing it until it’s complete

give yourself permission to spend time on planning the finer details of how to literally physically achieve goals, both big and small

you’ll learn a lot from that

Friend:

i think i need to work on the smaller deets.

because the grandioseness has sort of…made me feel……small

more difficult to achieve…

Update your Vision Board for emotional momentum

A vision board or ‘dream board’ — keeping a collage of cut-out images and photos placed on a wall — is one component for

  • a) staying focused on, and
  • b) building momentum toward…

…whatever positive emotional states you desire to increase in your life.

Just remember, this is just one component for success, and you still need to complete the formula as given by the Flower of Being.

BE the change. Don’t just fantasize about change.

For a counter-argument to vision boards see this article from Psychology Today ‘Throw away your vision board‘. What a sensationalist title!

The author doesn’t recognize the value in positive emotional visualisation. Too bad for him. He sites studies where a focus on planning was more effective than only a focus on fantasy…

But vision boarding isn’t about ‘not focusing on planning’.

It’s about helping you clarify your vision — to help you dream and think BIG — so that you can then plan for its attainment with other tools.

Explore the Flower of Being for all 7 dimensional components to creating your own completely fulfilling life experience.

Thought, Imagination & Fear

“Men fear thought as they fear nothing else on earth — more than ruin, more even than death. Thought is subversive and revolutionary, destructive and terrible… …thought is merciless to privilege, established institutions, and comfortable habits; thought is anarchic and lawless, indifferent to authority, careless of the well-tried wisdom of the ages. Thought looks into the pit of hell and is not afraid … Thought is great and swift and free, the light of the world, and the chief glory of man.” ― Bertrand Russell, Why Men Fight

Imagination should be used, not to escape reality, but to create it – Colin Wilson

Man cured of 30-year stutter in just 7 minutes (a must watch transformation video)

The video editing sensationalises the event by leaving out a lot of bits, such as the guy obviously being prepared to go on stage.

At minimum, Tony would have prompted Rechaud to spend a great deal of time on personal growth and visualising what he would say if he ever got up on stage, etc.

But in essence, the video is a powerful example of how people can both create their own problems and find the inner processes to transform problems into power.

Same applies to me.

Same applies to you.

Gratitude Meditation – Moving Art

A Moving Art original short. This inspirational video was well responded at TED conferences and filmmaker Louie Schwartzberg motivates those around him as happiness is revealed. Spoken word and music montage created and composed by Gary Malkin. Narration written and spoken by Brother David Steindl-Rast.

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