Why Do Men Pull Away When Things Are Just Getting Good?
Isn’t it obvious?
Because they’re shallow, selfish, immature, afraid of commitment and polygamous perverts…
…Woh, woh, woh.. Slow down there sister.
The things I hear women say about men still surprises me sometimes.
And from my extensive experience around the world looking into relationship dynamics in various cultures I can put hand over heart, look you straight in the eye, and tell you that men the world over absolutely DO want long-term relationships.
They’re NOT so shallow, immature or afraid of commitment at all!
Selfish polygamous perverts… maybe.
But they really, really do want that sweet, romantic, loving experience of life-long devotional commitment that you want.
They just approach it differently…
You’ve heard the concept of kissing a frog and one turning into a prince, right?
Well would you feel terribly offended if I report that many women kiss princes and promptly turn them into frogs…
You see, men and women are DIFFERENT.
We approach love differently.
We approach sex differently.
And we most certainly approach relationship commitment differently.
If you can accept that then you have a chance of cracking the courtship code to finally, once and for all, attract the ideal suitor for you.
Courtship, I define, as ‘the dance of dating for the purpose of long-term romantic love’.
It’s the ‘dance’ bit that women get wrong, from men’s perspective. Which sends said men running for the hills. Tragic but true.
But not necessary. If only you had been handed the ‘bro-code’ which I finally decided to reveal through The Intimacy Code, despite some of my ‘bros’ saying I’ve broken the sacred vows of manlihood by revealing all of our secrets.
What they don’t see is that by levelling the playing field so both sides knows the real rules of the dating game, both sides benefit.
There is no ‘winner takes all’ in the ‘battle of the sexes’.
There’s either relationship success, or relationship failure.
Key reasons why men pull away include:
Women being too emotionally needy.
Women getting emotionally involved too fast without the guy feeling that she’s gotten to know the real him yet..
Women putting pressure on the guy extremely prematurely in early stages of courtship about ‘settling down’, ‘starting a family’ etc.
Women interpret men’s behaviour as lacking emotional commitment when often times it’s just that men have a different approach to commitment.
All of these things scare men away…
Do you notice how all of those are about what women do?
Because from the man’s perspective, the reason he can’t commit, isn’t because he doesn’t want to, but because he’s not ready to or able to given the things that you do to push him away…
So try to think of it from this perspective:
Men don’t pull away, women push men away… turning princess into frogs. From that position of self-responsibility, you become super-empowered to finally treat men in a way that let’s them breathe a giant sigh of relief, and let’s them quickly take the lead in building emotionally devoted commitment to you and with you.
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PS. Let’s face it, you’re not everyone’s cup of tea. Sometimes men realize you’re not compatible and he moves on. No problem. There’s plenty of fish in the sea.
The trick though, is going fishing in a way so that you do get everything you want from you relationships and ultimately attract your ideal suitor. Your Mr. Right. Your prince charming.
He does exist, he is out there, although he may not be waiting for you. You’re going to have to show up on his radar.
Find out how in our 3rd part of this series on the Next Page as an introduction to The Intimacy Code. Click for Part 3: Get His Devotion.